322 Posts Later…

I glanced up at the post counter and could not believe that in approximately 7 months, I have written 322 posts!  I guess I have a lot to say!   This thought brought me back to my very first post ever written, titled “200,000 Words Daily”.  I chucked to myself and realized that only a few people have probably journeyed back to the beginning of Growing Self.  So, I decided I would share my first blog post, written on March 2, 2017…

 

200,000 Words Daily

“Communication is to relationships what breathing is to living…”     ~Virginia Satir

My Dad often wondered if I would ever stop talking.  I have to admit, I never tire of conversation…communication…words.  When the idea of blogging came up, Wifey responded with, “I am happy to share your need to speak 200,000 words daily with the world.” At first, I was not sure how to take this.   You can only imagine the conversation that could have occurred, based on her response…

Those reactionary words that flow out like daggers when words have hurt your heart.  Those words that so quickly surround you like quick sand.  Those words that burrow into your head and heart and remain for what seems like an eternity…   We have all experienced those words in some form or another.  Stop…breathe…think before you speak.

But, knowing Wifey as I do, her comment made perfect sense.  As difficult as it is for me to comprehend, Wifey only needs to speak about 100 words a day!  Yes, you read that correctly, 100 words daily…that was not a typo. Can my brain even comprehend this? Not in the slightest!  But, can my heart respect this difference…of course.

Learning and respecting individual communication needs is vital for a successful relationship.  Can this be difficult? Absolutely! Be brave enough to start the conversation.  Be strong enough to ask the difficult questions.  Be patient and understanding if the person’s needs you are communicating with are 200,000 words a day.  They very well might need to hear the same response numerous times! (Not that I am speaking from experience…) ♥

Please know, this whole idea of balance did not happen overnight.   Wifey will never be able to fathom the need to speak 200,000 words daily.  In fact, the whole idea is inconceivable to her! (By the way, if you just read the word “inconceivable” and heard it in your head as the little Sicilian man from “The Princess Bride”,  I adore you already! ) For myself, the thought of speaking only 100 minuscule words daily is, well…INCONCEIVABLE!

With that being said…

Love Yourself…Embrace Yourself…Just Be You…

♥Roda

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Thoughts and A Pumpkin Spice Doughnut…

I am sitting here, at my desk, telling myself I should really write something.  I am surrounded by my favorite things: coconut water, a pumpkin spice doughnut, and my desk magnet board, filled with cards from loved ones.  My setting is perfect and inspiring, yet my head seems somewhat quiet.  I have filled my blog with flowers in September and I am on a critter fix for the month of October.  Lately, I have been spending my days with a paint brush and my emotions, rather than the keyboard and my thoughts. It has been three weeks since my surgery and healing is going well.  In fact, only a few of you know the real reason why I started Growing Self about 6 months ago…

Back then, I called it a “health hiccup”.  I did not elaborate.  I like to stay upbeat and keep things positive. I wrote a post about making lemonade out of lemons and moved on. I had very few followers at that point, so it was read by few.   But, this little hiccup kept me from participating in my garden fully, the farm fully…my life fully.  I was going nuts!  I don’t sit well.  I can’t even remember the last time I turned on the TV or watched a movie.  Needless to say, Wifey suggested that I finally start writing my blog.  It was something I could do to fill my days and incorporate all of the things I love.  And here I am… 2 surgeries and 313 posts later!  I have never missed a day.  I have met amazing writers, poets, photographers and artists…I have met amazing friends.

As I think about these special souls, I dream of a life where all of these beautiful, like-minded individuals could live on one street – think about the block parties we could have!  Today, Wifey asked me what I wanted for my birthday.  Keep in mind, I LOVE my birthday!!!  October is pre-birth month.  December is post-birth month.  But, when November hits…watch out!

This was my answer to Wifey’s question…

I would love to meet my “Blog Friends”.  I want to have dinner with Linda and play with Walter and Levi.  I want to fly to South Africa and learn about photography and spiders from Ark.  I want to go on a hike, in the forest, with Rhapsody and dance with the woodland fairies!  I want to visit lighthouses with Mr. Mel, aka Yoda.  I want to fly to France and paint with Doc.  I want to go on a run with Dee Dee…please, not more than 5 miles!  I want to “high-5” Kerry Ann in person.  I want to walk through Sophie’s beautiful gardens and drink tea. I want to sit on Robin’s porch and make wreaths and eat pumpkin spice everything!  I want to swing in hammocks with Shelly and talk about life.  I want my own cape, to fly through the streets of London, with Maria, singing and writing poetry.  I want to hear Jess’s amazing Australian accent.  I want to spend all day in a book store with sweet Nel.  I want to sit and hear the stories of Mohamad’s travels.   And, I want to spend the day with my adorable, twin brother Jay.

Call it my blogging bucket list!  This thought sure is a beautiful one!  SO… this is my way to say “thank you” to each of you, and so many more, for bringing me so much laughter and joy over the past 6 months!    I feel blessed that our paths have crossed!  I am inspired daily by your gifts, talents and wisdom!  My birthday is in just over a month…so, that is plenty of time to plan!  I say, “Party at Linda’s!” 

Thank you for,

Loving Me…Embracing Me…Allowing Me to Be Truly Me…

♥Roda

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Love Yourself…Embrace Yourself…Just Be You…