322 Posts Later…

I glanced up at the post counter and could not believe that in approximately 7 months, I have written 322 posts!  I guess I have a lot to say!   This thought brought me back to my very first post ever written, titled “200,000 Words Daily”.  I chucked to myself and realized that only a few people have probably journeyed back to the beginning of Growing Self.  So, I decided I would share my first blog post, written on March 2, 2017…


200,000 Words Daily

“Communication is to relationships what breathing is to living…”     ~Virginia Satir

My Dad often wondered if I would ever stop talking.  I have to admit, I never tire of conversation…communication…words.  When the idea of blogging came up, Wifey responded with, “I am happy to share your need to speak 200,000 words daily with the world.” At first, I was not sure how to take this.   You can only imagine the conversation that could have occurred, based on her response…

Those reactionary words that flow out like daggers when words have hurt your heart.  Those words that so quickly surround you like quick sand.  Those words that burrow into your head and heart and remain for what seems like an eternity…   We have all experienced those words in some form or another.  Stop…breathe…think before you speak.

But, knowing Wifey as I do, her comment made perfect sense.  As difficult as it is for me to comprehend, Wifey only needs to speak about 100 words a day!  Yes, you read that correctly, 100 words daily…that was not a typo. Can my brain even comprehend this? Not in the slightest!  But, can my heart respect this difference…of course.

Learning and respecting individual communication needs is vital for a successful relationship.  Can this be difficult? Absolutely! Be brave enough to start the conversation.  Be strong enough to ask the difficult questions.  Be patient and understanding if the person’s needs you are communicating with are 200,000 words a day.  They very well might need to hear the same response numerous times! (Not that I am speaking from experience…) ♥

Please know, this whole idea of balance did not happen overnight.   Wifey will never be able to fathom the need to speak 200,000 words daily.  In fact, the whole idea is inconceivable to her! (By the way, if you just read the word “inconceivable” and heard it in your head as the little Sicilian man from “The Princess Bride”,  I adore you already! ) For myself, the thought of speaking only 100 minuscule words daily is, well…INCONCEIVABLE!

With that being said…

Love Yourself…Embrace Yourself…Just Be You…






Life at Midlife

I came across this poem and it spoke everything I feel… ♥


Life at Midlife

Author: Mary Anne Perrone

I am no longer waiting for a special occasion; I burn the best candles on ordinary days.

I am no longer waiting for the house to be clean; I fill it with people who understand that even dust is Sacred.

I am no longer waiting for everyone to understand me; It’s just not their task

I am no longer waiting for the perfect children; my children have their own names that burn as brightly as any star.

I am no longer waiting for the other shoe to drop; It already did, and I survived.

I am no longer waiting for the time to be right; the time is always now.

I am no longer waiting for the mate who will complete me; I am grateful to be so warmly, tenderly held.

I am no longer waiting for a quiet moment; my heart can be stilled whenever it is called.

I am no longer waiting for the world to be at peace; I unclench my grasp and breathe peace in and out.

I am no longer waiting to do something great; being awake to carry my grain of sand is enough.

I am no longer waiting to be recognized…

I know that I dance in a holy circle.


Love Yourself…Embrace Yourself…Just Be You…