Don’t get me wrong, I adore my kids! They are caring and responsible creatures. They are also extremely successful in school and have never been in trouble. But…
Like all creatures, there are days that reminders need to take place and Come to Jesus conversations need to happen. Then, there are those once in a blue moon times that Mommy Manifestos need to be written…yesterday was that day!
Due to some current forgetfulness about expectations, I found myself feeling a bit frustrated and underappreciated last night. This has only happened a few times, but my kids remember these times well. Why, you might ask? Well, because Mommy goes on strike. Wake up call! I have found that putting my thoughts into writing, for my kiddos, hits home and delivers a better outcome, compared to going off on my verbal soap box. They are teenagers. They have the ability to block out anything and everyone. But, how can they block out a letter titled, “Mommy Manifesto”?!
The following declaration was sent to my kiddos last night…
Good evening! This is a Mommy update. Due to feeling a bit underappreciated, I am going to add a few new stipulations/reminders to your daily routine. All of these points might not be directed at each of you individually, but overall, are fair adjustments and helpful in your process of becoming responsible and respectful young adults. Know that I love you with all of my heart…
1. Laundry – Laundry needs to be in the laundry room before school, if you would like it completed that day. If your laundry is put in the laundry room after school, it will be completed on the next business day. If you need something specific, on the next business day, you are more than welcome to wash your own laundry. I will be available, at this time, for consultation only. Once your clean laundry is delivered to you room, it must be put away before bedtime. The laundry basket must be returned to the laundry room.
2. Lunches – Lunches need to be pre-packed the night before school. There will be NO lunch mania, taking place in the kitchen, at 6:30a.m. This causes everyone, including the adults, to begin their day feeling stressed. This lack of organization can also cause late departures for school. Slight injury may also occur, due to wrestling over the last apple or granola bar! Think ahead and make a plan!
3. Social Life – If you would like to do something with your friends or significant others, you need to ASK not TELL the adult present, if it is OK. This is the respectful way to approach this situation…remember, you are not 18. Also, there are other schedules happening in our home, NOT just your schedule.
4. Bedrooms – You must be respectful of your room, for it is a part of our home. Your room needs to be picked up, by bedtime, each day. This includes water bottles, mugs, snack bowls, empty wrappers, etc. Laundry needs to be hung in your closet or folded. Clothing should NEVER be found on the floor, ever! I don’t expect your room to be perfect, but I expect to be able to see the carpet. I will be doing room checks in the A.M. If these items are found in the room, there will be consequences delivered, based on my current mood and based on that given day. Consequences will not always be the same and might not always seem fair, but I am Mommy, hear me ROAR! Once again, be respectful of your room and our home.
5. Your weekly jobs must be completed without an adult reminder! You are all extremely intelligent. You have calendars, phones and sticky notes! Do what it takes to create your own reminders. I don’t mind how you remind yourself, just get it done. Once again, if reminders need to be given, consequences will occur.
Note: This Addendum begins on February 1st. This gives you a day to ask for clarification and/or make any necessary adjustments to your worlds!
You are all amazing, loving and wonderful young adults. I am so proud of all three of you. I will continue to hug you often, kiss you when you leave and embarrass you in front of your friends. Why? Because, I love you. Remember, it is ok to hug your Mommy and remind her that you appreciate her, too. Saying these words aloud will not cause you to melt or grow a second head!
Please acknowledge that you have received this document. If you have questions, please ask. Remember, this addendum begins at midnight, on February 1st, 2018!
Your Amazing & Extremely Patient Mommy
May the Force Be With Them All…
Love Yourself…Embrace Yourself…Just Be You…