It seems that we spend our lives trying to figure out who we are. During our teen years, we know everything. Our parents, well, they are simply clueless! Trust me, I have three teenagers, therefore I am clueless daily. As we enter our 20s, it seems that we are invincible…ready to take on the world! Then, L-I-F-E starts to happen. Careers grow, babies boom, and as the big “30” is beckoning, a reality check starts to set in. Who am I? Where am I going? What do I really want to do with my life. When I think back on my 30s, my life was surrounded by Cheerios, The Wiggles (Come on parents out there, sing it with me…”Toot toot, Chugga Chugga, big red car…”) No wonder I questioned who I was!
Keep in mind, if anyone would’ve asked me if I knew who I was, I would’ve said, “Of course! I know myself inside out and backwards! Yet, at the time, my insides were churning with so many difficult questions… It was during my 30s that I realized I was, “playing for the wrong team“. It was in my 30s that I was determined to embrace the phrase, “Just because my marriage ended, doesn’t mean my family has to“. It was during my 30s I spoke the words out loud, “I am gay“. During my 30s… I started to embrace myself.
And then we come to the last five years. The 40s. I love The 40s! The 40s rock! All of a sudden, you don’t care what people think. All of a sudden, you start to notice the little things in life, the meaningful things…you realize what truly matters. As I turned 45, (which I might remind you is halfway to 90) I began to truly love and accept myself. Each day, I continue my journey of “growing self. These two amazing books have been true life guides, during this time. If you are on a journey of growing self, I highly recommend:
Circle of Stones by Judith Duerk
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown.
Love Yourself… Embrace Yourself… And Just Be You!