“Communication is to relationships what breathing is to living…” ~Virginia Satir
My Dad often wondered if I would ever stop talking. I have to admit, I never tire of conversation…communication…words. When the idea of blogging came up, Wifey responded with, “I am happy to share your need to speak 200,000 words daily with the world.” At first, I was not sure how to take this. You can only imagine the conversation that could have occurred, based on her response…
Those reactionary words that flow out like daggers when words have hurt your heart. Those words that so quickly surround you like quick sand. Those words that burrow into your head and heart and remain for what seems like an eternity… We have all experienced those words in some form or another. Stop…breathe…think before you speak.
But, knowing Wifey as I do, her comment made perfect sense. As difficult as it is for me to comprehend, Wifey only needs to speak about 100 words a day! Yes, you read that correctly, 100 words daily…that was not a typo. Can my brain even comprehend this? Not in the slightest! But, can my heart respect this difference…of course.
Learning and respecting individual communication needs is vital for a successful relationship. Can this be difficult? Absolutely! Be brave enough to start the conversation. Be strong enough to ask the difficult questions. Be patient and understanding if the person’s needs you are communicating with are 200,000 words a day. They very well might need to hear the same response numerous times! (Not that I am speaking from experience…) ♥
Please know, this whole idea of balance did not happen overnight. Wifey will never be able to fathom the need to speak 200,000 words daily. In fact, the whole idea is inconceivable to her! (By the way, if you just read the word “inconceivable” and heard it in your head as the little Sicilian man from “The Princess Bride”, I adore you already! ♥) For myself, the thought of speaking only 100 minuscule words daily is, well…INCONCEIVABLE!
With that said,
Be Brave…Be Strong… and Just Be you!